Does the Jerk Always Come Back? How to Handle His Return and Move On

Let’s get straight to the point: the jerk almost always comes back. Yes, you heard that right! It’s not magic, and it’s not because he’s suddenly had a revelation and realized you’re the love of his life. The jerk comes back because he notices you’re doing well, moving on, and, most importantly, don’t need him to be happy. And, for him, that’s nearly impossible to accept.

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But just because he comes back doesn’t mean you need to open the door, right? Let’s talk about how to anticipate and stand strong in that moment. Because, girl, who needs that exhausting cycle of coming and going that only wears you out and hurts you?

Why Does the Jerk Come Back?

The jerk usually comes back for three main reasons:

Bruised Ego: He sees you’re doing well without chasing after him, and that hurts his ego. He needs to prove to himself that he still has some control over the situation—and over you.

Fear of Being Alone: Often, he realizes that life without you isn’t as interesting. Maybe he hasn’t found someone who “supports” him emotionally like you did.

Routine and Comfort: Jerks love comfort, and many times, coming back to you is just a way of avoiding facing his own loneliness or need for change.

These reasons are clear signs that he’s not returning because he’s changed or suddenly wants something more serious. It’s ego, fear, and comfort speaking louder. So, before you consider opening the door again, remember these factors.

How to Handle the Jerk’s Return

When he sends that infamous “Hey” text, you need to stay firm in your decision. Remember all those times he blamed you, accused you, and put you down? Exactly. Those situations show he wasn’t willing to appreciate you the way you deserve. Here are some practical tips for dealing with this situation:

Strengthen Your Decision: Remind yourself why you walked away. It’s not easy letting go of someone you love, but you made this decision to protect your mental health and well-being. Honor the strength you had to leave this cycle.

Invest in Your Self-Esteem: Abusive or toxic relationships can leave deep marks on self-esteem. Focus on activities that make you feel good and surround yourself with people who lift you up. And remember: it’s not your fault. You’re amazing, and someone who truly values you will see that.

Surround Yourself with Support: Having friends, family, and even therapy can be very helpful in this healing process. Having people who remind you of your worth and give you the strength to resist when the jerk tries to come back is essential.

Prepare for New Relationships

Now is the time to focus on yourself and emotionally prepare for, in the future, being open to a healthy and happy relationship. Work on your self-confidence, set boundaries, and reinforce what you want and won’t tolerate. So, when you meet someone new, you’ll be stronger, more grounded, and know exactly what you deserve.

Remember: You’re Not What He Tried to Make You Believe

After leaving a toxic relationship, it’s common to feel shaken in self-esteem. The jerk loves to throw blame at you, accuse you, and make you feel like the bad guy. But, girl, that doesn’t define who you are. He comes back because he knows your worth, but pretends he doesn’t see it—only now, you’re the one who needs to recognize it.

Conclusion: He Might Come Back, but You Decide if He Stays

Yes, the jerk might always come back, but that doesn’t mean you need to go back with him. The choice is yours, and the power is in your hands. Choose peace, your well-being, and your happiness. And if you need a reminder, remember that you’re an incredible woman, deserving of a true and healthy love that will value and respect you.

Stay strong. The jerk may come back, but now you know how to handle it and, most importantly, how to say no!